Today (July 6), Rhonda and I celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. I remember the day clearly because I shot a five over-par at the Pine Grove Golf course in Sudbury, Ontario. Five over par was an excellent game for me at that time. And honestly, if it wasn’t for a bad slice on the 14th hole which ended up in a sand trap, I am convinced I could have finished just 3 over par. Ah, it was a beautiful day.
But the day only got better because at just after 2 PM in the sanctuary of Glad Tidings Church, before God and a host of witnesses, the women I was crazy in love with, said “I do”. She promised to be my wife “from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; until death do us part.” I loved her then and I love her now - she has been completely faithful to those words.
We have enjoyed many good times and indeed have been blessed with a rich life of things we enjoy together. There have been those times which were ‘for worse’ when her simple trust, faith and confidence in me have pulled us through. I am always amazed that knowing me as she does she still believes in me and loves me in spite of all my faults. The ‘for richer, for poorer’ part has involved mostly ‘for poorer’ as we have started over again in various locations around the world. She truly believes in our calling to ‘store up for yourselves treasures in heaven.’ As for ‘sickness and health’, I’d have to say that we have been blessed with good health and strength but as we grow older she watches out for me. Recently, we have started a jogging program knowing that we need to be working on our health together. The best part for me is that I have her to myself for twenty minutes, just the two of us. She has completely fulfilled the ‘to love and to cherish’ part of her vows and that hasn’t been easy.
Rhonda’s vows, twenty years ago this afternoon, were not mere words but an expression of who she is and what she intended to do with her life. She took those vows seriously, she meant them and she has kept them. She is one of the most honourable and authentic people I know. As most people at our wedding were only too willing to tell me, I got the better deal in this marriage. She promised to be a ‘great wife’ and she is. I am still ‘crazy’ in love with her but now in a deeper and more intimate way than I ever thought possible.
Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the LORD.” All I can say is that this has proved to be true in my life. God gave me a wonderful wife and I am blessed because of her.
Rhonda, thanks for the last twenty years, they have been great. But I think the next twenty will be even better. Happy Anniversary!